I think at this point you would benefit from getting the CD from Bruce.
http://www.rentron.com/QRELAY.htm
I do not have it , but if it is like Bruce's other stuff it should get you going and then some.

Should save you time and headaches.

Then when you have a specific problem you will be able to get direct answers.
Now we are going with general questions that will take forever on the forum.

But I have a question for you. What other projects have you done. This is a tough one to start with if you do not have much experience.