My head hurts!

I am trying to learn how to set the configuration bits. I try to use the MPLAB configuration bits window, but I can't get it to stick in the chip. I am using PICKIT 2 programming software, and it displays the config register, so I know it isn't doing what I want.

I discovered the .inc file for the PIC I am using. Editing this seems to work, but I don't know how to create all of the different names for the bits, etc. Yes, I can change an On to Off, but for example, my file doesn't seem to have anything for the Power-Up Timer in it. Where do I find the info do edit this file? I've looked at the PIC12F683 data sheet, and I understand the config register and what the bits do. I just don't know how to edit the .inc file.

I seem to be able to both read and write the chip using the PICKIT2 directly. However, when writing from MPLAB, it writes, but fails verify. And when I read from MPLAB it doesn't actuall load the program, like PICKIT 2 does. ??? Is this part of my problem? Can't be good.

Any help is much appreciated at this point.