What do you mean with options? WDT, OSC? If so, they are processors config options, correct values should be read from the .HEX file. Anyway, switch WDT off, OSC to INTRCIO and MCLR off.
I use a programmer from www.kitsrus.com -> KIT128. Extremely reliable device!!!
I made it myself, pcb drawings and PIC code files are given. IC-prog is also goodbut serial port programmers usually do not work. Not enough power from modern ports. Use PPwin if you have to.