I appreciate the suggestion, I can throw away the chip and resolder a new one on, but I want to figure out how to keep this from happening again. I have killed 2 chips already and I know every other one I program will be dead unless I change something.

Do you know if the MELABS programmer will automatically skip the OSCAL and BandGap settings? I need to program 1000s of these once i get this figured out and can't afford the time of writing down the OSCAL values of every chip.

I am not even sure the OSCAL value being deleted is the problem, as I understand it I should still be able to reprogram the chip if that were the case and the internal oscillator would just be off by a little. At this point the programmer won't let me reprogram or erase the chip.