Agg i posted a reply but it didnt take.

Yes Demon, that was the problem, I copied and pasted backwards, I changed the pins in the plug so it does work now on the premade board. a second problem I found was the premade board had a 7805 on it and I had tied the input of that to 5volts, it barely lit the screen and did not turn on the PIC, been stressing alot here lately, lots going on. but I have learned a ton this week. so the thermostat works, thanks everyone