Okey so finally i got this working, but the story about how i did it is kinda BAD.

So after a while i was beginning to wonder why it was reading wrong voltages. and i knew the connections where right, until i look really close to the serial cabel, i used a rs232 to rj45 and a cat5 cabel, but i somehow got the colors mixed up. So ground was not connected. heh.... well u think stupid you, and yes stupid me. not going to that mistake again. So then i started to check the connection on my breadboard and pow it splits in the middel where i had put my pic. so basicly i had half of the earth connections not connected. And i connected it this way after it was connected the right way. but then i did not have the pin 5 from rs232.

Maybe it's a lesson to learn from all of this. ALWAYS check ur cabel and make sure pin5 is connected.

BTW how many times have i answerd What colour is a ripe tomato?
lost count

Sorry to have wasted everybodies time but i really appricihate it.

And i did learn alot from searching and reading around the net.

Thx for all the help once again and sorry that im such an idiot